CandiDates: Summer Swing

It’s the hottest time of the season, and the multitude of events during this scorching weather is keeping up with the heat (303 Magazine’s 5th Annual Pool Party, anyone?) So, what do you do if you’re sort of, kind of seeing someone? Do you bring them as your date, and give up the possibility of mingling with all the sizzling singles in attendance? Or, do you venture out solo, and risk leaving the party as you entered it?

Well, duh, all the coupled-up lovebirds will tell you to ignite the fire with your semi-S.O. and turn that “complicated” status into a not-so-complicated one. And, all the singles out there will encourage you to leave the casual thing at home and explore the many other casual, sexy beach bodies – I mean, this summer has already started so many fires, what’s one more before settling down?
My take (and I have attended plenty of these soirees) is to figure out how much you’re really into this kind of, sort of relationship. If this is the one to pass the time with until you find The One, leave this one at home. Too many half-naked, sexy, single (or pretending to be single) individuals at such events for you to be tied down to a plus one. Granted, your hope to find The One in this crowd is slim to none, so don’t go into it with that expectation, either. Go, shop around, maybe even take one home to try on for size, and return the next day. You almost never want to hold on to merchandise purchased from a display (stains, missing parts, and who knows who had them on before you).

If you’re in it for keeps and the other party’s the one second-guessing, I also recommend you keep them safely at home and out of this party’s reach. Think about it—if there are so many options on the menu for you, same goes for the one you’re trying to tame. And, this isn’t the place for anyone who’s on the fence, if you know what I mean. Too many pretty people, an abundance of alcohol and the sounds of Ibiza, Paris and Miami beaches transform anyone’s way of thinking, when the options appear to be endless.
So, I guess the take-away is, if you can keep your goods locked up, do. No sense messing up a good thing; plus, temptation doesn’t bode well with indecision (or, rather, bodes too well). Unless, of course, you know it’s in the bag and you’re comfortable in a swimsuit, or you’re a gambler: then take your chances and come as a pair. Just make sure to leave as that same two-some—swapping has been known to occur.



Vicky fills the shoes of local Carrie Bradshaw in CandiDates, a blog about her own quest to explore the intricacies of relationships. Originally from Kiev, Ukraine, she has made Denver her home and playground. An editor and writer for 303 Magazine by day, Vicky spends her nights pursuing her passion of ballroom dance.

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