I love the term “making love” because it clearly states that we are creating something new, something out of nothing, and that is exactly what we are actually doing.
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There are many ways to Make Love. One is to forgive others, and ourselves, for our transgressions. To not forgive can mean holding onto negative and destructive 
feelings like anger, resentment, revenge and bitterness and that only hurts ourselves, not the other person. Whereas to forgive them means we replace nastiness with love and compassion out of recognition that they, like us, make mistakes and can be real jerks at times. This means we also get to grow forgiveness and compassion for ourselves in our own faults and failings.
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The key here is that love is for giving. And love is forgiving. Through the choice of forgiveness we take the heavy feelings listed above and transform them into light and love. We literally make love (gold) out of heavy (lead) feelings… it is an act of alchemy, of magic, of creation an transformation: turning inner lead into gold.
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We also get to Make Love by learning and practicing self-acceptance and self-value. We are taught to judge, berate and condemn ourselves for our mistakes, our faults, our failures. We are taught to compare ourselves with some false ideal and decide we are lacking and therefore unloveable. We are taught to beat ourselves up when we think we have made a wrong choice. In other words, we are taught many, many ways to be basically bloody miserable in our life and then (!!) we are taught false ways to deal with this, like medications or buying junk we do not need which is supposed to make us happy.
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Again we can take all of these negative and destructive choices and turn then on their head. Instead we can make choices that say: I am doing the best I can and I am learning and growing from my mistakes. I am perfectly me, living the life I need for my greatest personal and spiritual growth. Every mistake I make is an opportunity to learn and grow. Comparing myself to others is ridiculous… there is only one of them and one of me. We are all on unique paths.
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The next step is to choose to believe that every step we take, every experience, every lesson, every mistake, is valuable, because we as humans are here to grow through learning and experience, and if that is true then I can love every second of my life and of me. All my faults and failings become opportunities for more self-growth, awareness and appreciation and to more and more value and love my path. I learn to love myself and my life.
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So I offer my personal mantra: “I choose to believe that I have chosen every second of my life with love and wisdom for myself to get value.”
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That is Making Love! – Gregory Charles
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