I recently realized just how fortunate I am to never have been abused, or raped, or sexually traumatized in any way. I 
was never frigid, nor was there ever any sexual dysfunction in my former marriage. I speak with countless women who have experienced some sort of abuse – either physical, sexual, or emotional, often at the hands of authority figures, or those they loved and trusted the most. This really comes as no surprise when you review the statistics compiled by the Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network. RAINN studies reveal the following:
- A sexual assault occurs every 2 minutes on average in the U.S.
- 44% of victims are under the age of 18, and 80% are under 30.
- Approximately 2/3 of sexual assaults are committed by someone known to the victim.
- 54% of sexual assaults are never reported to the police.
With this in mind, you may think that someone like me, or you, who has never been sexually victimized, has no need for sexual healing. I recently discovered that is not the case. In fact, during a recent appearance on Naked Talk Radio when asked ‘who needs sexual healing’, I replied with, ‘the entire planet’. If you’ve been following my Hump Days posts, you know I make no secret of my feelings that the U.S. in particular, needs a major attitude adjustment when it comes to sex in general.
So what is sexual healing, and how can we all benefit from it? Here’s what Marvin Gaye had to say in a very well-known song:
And when I get that feeling
I want sexual healing
Sexual healing is good for me
Makes me feel so fine, it’s such a rush
Helps to relieve the mind, and it’s good for us….
Well I already know that it’s good for us, but in my own words, I’ll share with you what I learned in a recent meeting with a local Daka. ‘Daka’ is the term for a certified Tantra instructor and sexual healing coach. First, let’s define Tantra, since people are constantly asking me what it is. According to the Complete Idiot’s Guide to Tantric Sex, the term ‘tantra’ actually translates to ‘expansion through awareness’. The practice of Tantric sex utilizes breath, sound, and movement to quiet the mind and activate sexual energy. And just as Daka Dan explained to me, this practice is also used to heal and sometimes uncover painful experiences from the past that are often stored in the sexual centers of the body – even past hurts that may not necessarily be of a sexual nature.
Daka Dan compared what he does for his clients to the work of a massage therapist. This made complete sense to me since I am pretty much a ‘massage junkie’. Especially since my addiction to massage is more of a medical necessity than a self-indulgent luxury. There are so many people in our culture who are shut-down sexually or are sexually-inhibited for a variety of reasons, including sexual or emotional trauma, dysfunctional relationships, religious beliefs, or simply social stigma. In our society, we are finally embracing the idea that keeping ourselves healthy is a better idea than popping a pill when we become ill. In the past ten years or so, we are finally recognizing the benefits of massage as a means to relieve stress, decrease our chances of injury, and improve our overall well-being. If you think of sexual healing or Tantric practice in the same way, the possibilities of improved relationship health, whether it be with ourselves or another (or others), are endless. This idea really plays well with my viewpoint that if we were all having more frequent and gratifying sexual experiences, the world would be a happier place indeed.
Dan Powers (Daka Dan) together with his partner Elizabeth Wood, an experienced Sex Therapist and certified Tantra educator, co-mingled their experience and vision into a collaborative effort called SensualU. According to their website, they provide both individuals and couples with resources necessary to awaken their sensuality, fully experience their sexual potential, and maximize the pleasure derived from intimate relationships, including the one with self. And if you are one of the many who have roadblocks due to sexual trauma, they will help you identify and break through them first. From my own experience, I can tell you that there’s definitely something to this. I left my session feeling peaceful, serene, empowered, and rejuvenated. I actually felt better than I do after a 90 minute massage. It was kind of like checking my 50 pounds of baggage after schlepping it all over the airport for the last 20 years or so.
I know Marvin knew how to ‘get it on’, but it’s obvious he knew nothing about Tantra when he wrote these lyrics, projecting the responsibility for his ‘healing’ on his lover:
I gotta have sexual healing darling
Cos’ I’m all alone
And I need sexual healing darling
Till you come back home
Please don’t procrastinate
It’s not good to masturbate
I know that last statement’s not true.
If you’re ready for a little sexual healing you can find more information at Dakadan.com or SensualU.com.
It is liberating to know and openly discuss sexual desires and wants without felling self conscious or that you are being judged. Knowing yourself is critical. Masturbating is better than cheating and great foreplay.
Alright seeing that a favorite Artist of mind is being depicted here within this Article in regards to certain Sexual Activities; Needless to say, that I am going to give a thorough, thorough response to this post Patty, as if that was anything new from me huh..lol..oh Hush..;-)
But Seriously though, I feel Compelled to say what I am about to say here in this post, because I think that with all the controversy going on and around about what defines a couple or rather what the Definition of “Marriage” in these days and times is, I Strongly
Feel that this needs to be addressed in this manner.
First off I was born an Alpha Male, so Trust and Believe me when I say this, I Love the Status that I hold!!! For me there is NOTHING on the face of this Earth that IS MORE SATISFYING & PLEASURABLE to “A MAN” than “A WOMAN”….PERIOD!!!
Look, let go ahead and get this out the way right now, before I explode or go any further. I’m NOT gay, NEVER BEEN gay DON’T HAVE gay friends… “BUTT” I DO ENJOY MARVIN GAYE’S music….AND HE WASN’T gay EITHER!! Like me, He Thoroughly, Thoroughly Enjoyed the LOVE of “A WOMAN”….Its a Beautiful thing, let me tell ya. Trust me there’s Nothing like Having a Soft Succulent, Curvy woman who might I add is Rounded off in all the right places…And You as a Male having the Distinct Pleasure of Sticking D**K to her Repeatedly with juices flowing everywhere until she can’t take it no more!!
If this was Thanksgiving and she was the Turkey, She would be getting STUFFFFFED til she Gobble Gobbled or wobbled wobble that Ass to the floor, because she won’t be standing up, No Time soon!!
But no doubt a gay man or a Lesbian woman will stumble across this post and get offended…GOOD!!….But since Patty’s a Dear friend of mine I’ll be fair to all… and say this…. But mind you, what I’m about to say though I MEAN WHOLEHEARTEDLY and you can quote me on this…
“What Two People Do Behind Closed Doors, Is Their Business period. That’s between them and whatever god they believe in. However the GOD that I know does things in DECENCY & IN ORDER….AND EVERY LIVING THING THAT HE MADE CAN REPRODUCE ANOTHER GENERATION THROUGH SEX….. End of Story.”
Now I’m not judging ANYONE, bc Gays and Lesbian’s are people too. However when it comes to “SEX” or a legal union in “Holy Matrimony” meaning Marriage for people who love the same sex partner as them? I’m sorry “BUTT” that’s something TOO HARD TO SWALLOW…oops…lol
I do have one more Thing to Pull Out…lol….But I feel the need to say this as well….As an Alpha Male My D**K was made for P{{}}Y!!!! It was SPECIALLY DESIGNED by GOD for that purpose. To Fit Snuggly in the Hole of Pleasure….See exhibit P >>>>>>>
to Function in Complete Unison with “A WOMAN” who has one of these {{}}!!
These two Main Components are Essential for ALL LIFE to be able to Experience the Fullness of Real SEX with a Partner Opposite of Them. In order to bring forth New Life on Earth if Desired to. But in order for this to happen or occur REPRODUCTION is KEY!! You can take GOD out of the Equation (I wouldn’t advise it, but you can) AND THIS RULE STILL APPLIES…..
Without tying Religion or GOD to SEX, with regards to Straight people or to gays and Lesbians, this is Still a FUNDAMENTAL LAW…. There is No Animal in the Wild NO WHERE ON EARTH that can Reproduce a New Generation of its kind with a same sex partner…It Just doesn’t happen, nor will it Ever Happen, EVER!!
I’ll even be more Practical and say this, If You are in a Building of any kind and there is POWER SOURCE available …In order to TAP into that POWER SOURCE…You must First PLUG SOMETHING INTO THE WALL, THEN CONNECTION IS MADE!! AND YOU GET THE JUICES FLOWING TO WHATEVER YOU PLUGGED INTO IT!!
Try getting your computer or Flat Screen to work using a Male fitting with a Male fitting or a Female fitting with a Female Fitting ..lol You’ll Be left in the Dark for a Long time with virtually NO CHANCE AT ALL of getting Connected to the Power Source which if used Correctly will allow your Appliance or Electronics TO WORK PROPERLY and that’s the point!!!
Think of “Mother Earth” and “Father Time” EVERYTHING ON EARTH CAN REPLENISH ITSELF!!!…Why do we call women Mother’s? Because they are the bearers of forth coming Life and Nurture IT!! Why do we call men Father’s? Because the Bloodline flows through them to a Woman in Time and that process is repeated and has Worked since Man and Woman has been in Existence!! I mean why mess up a Good Thing!!
It’s through TIME that WE LEARN Right from Wrong or how to live and Function on this planet etc. In Essence it TEACHES US as it moves along its merry way, Bc TIME WAITS FOR NO ONE!!!!! One Simply Can’t Exist Without the Other FACT!!!
Sex is indeed a Beautiful thing, it was made to Heal the Mind, Body and Soul of a man and a woman. To Bring forth another Life should they choose to do so, or to just be 1 with each other in pure Bliss. The Divine made it for it to be most Pleasurable and I thoroughly Enjoy it when I part take in it….Whomever you are with, be good to that person and make sure that they feel Loved by you, every time, that you look to heal both yours and their body in this way…Just my thoughts Javinno Puricelli
Having worked with Dan, I can attest to what a wonderful experience a session with a Daka is. I do have some stuff to work through and am finding Tantra to be an amazing vehicle. Elizabeth is a delightful and insightful woman. Together they are quite a team. We are fortunate to live an area that has a number of skilled and caring Dakinis and Dakas.
Blessings on the healing sessions which open and enliven. Thank you for the courage to share…
Alright seeing that a Favorite Artist of mind is being Depicted Here in & within this Article in regards to certain “SEXUAL ACTIVITIES”… Needless to say, that I am going to give a thorough, thorough Response to this post Patty so no worries Hon, as if that was anything new from me huh..lol..oh Hush..;-).
But Seriously though, I feel Compelled to say what I am about to say, here in this post, because I think that, with all the CONTROVERSY going on and around about what Defines “A COUPLE” or rather what the Definition of the word “MARRIAGE” is, in these days and times. So I Strongly Feel that this needs to be addressed in this manner.
First off I was Born an “ALPHA MALE”, so Trust and Believe me when I say this,
I LOVE THE STATUS THAT I HOLD! So No matter what I will Never Relinquish Loving, Caressing, Holding tightly, or just plain Tapping that ass Royally, WITH A WOMAN!
For me, THERE IS NOTHING on the face of this Earth that is MORE SATISFYING & PLEASURABLE to “A MAN” than “A WOMAN”….period!…Let me say that again PERIOD!
LOOK, Let Me Go Ahead And Say this and Get This Out The Way Right Now, Before I Explode or Go Any Further with my statement.
PLEASE HEAR ME CLEARLY…I AM NOT gay, NEVER BEEN gay DON’T HAVE gay tendencies and DON’T HAVE gay friends… “BUTT” I DO ENJOY MARVIN GAYE’S music Such as SEXUAL HEALING….AND HE WASN’T gay EITHER!
Like Me, He Thoroughly, Thoroughly Enjoyed THE LOVE of “A WOMAN”….It’s a Beautiful thing, Let Me Tell Ya! Trust and Believe Me, There’s Nothing like Having a SOFT, SUCCULENT, CURVY WOMAN Who Might I Add IS ROUNDED OFF IN ALL THE RIGHT PLACES….
And YOU as the “ALPHA MALE” having the DISTINCT PLEASURE OF STICKING D**K TO HER REPEATEDLY…. with juices flowing everywhere until she can’t take it no more!
IF this was Thanksgiving and she was the Turkey, She would be getting STUFFFFFED til she Gobble Gobbled or wobbled wobble that Ass to the floor, because she won’t be Standing Up, Properly No Time Soon!
But no doubt a (gay man) or a (Lesbian woman) will stumble across this post and get offended…GOOD! But since Patty’s a Dear friend of mine I’ll be fair to all… and say this…. But mind you, what I’m about to say though I MEAN WHOLEHEARTEDLY and you can quote me on this……In Fact Please Do BY ALL MEANS!
“What Two People Do Behind Closed Doors, Is Their Business period. That’s between them and whatever god they believe in. HOWEVER THE GOD THAT I KNOW DOES THINGS IN DECENCY & IN ORDER….AND EVERY LIVING THING THAT GOD MADE CAN REPRODUCE ANOTHER GENERATION THROUGH SEX….. End of Story.”.
Now I’m not judging ANYONE, bc Gays and Lesbian’s are people too. However when it comes to “SEX” or a legal union in “HOLY MATRIMONY” meaning MARRIAGE for people who love the same sex partner as them? I’m sorry “BUTT” that’s something TOO HARD TO SWALLOW…oops…lol However I do have one more Thing to Pull Out…lol….But I feel this NEEDS TO BE SAID as well….
As an “ALPHA MALE” My D**K was made for P{{}}Y! IT WAS SPECIALLY DESIGNED BY GOD FOR THAT PURPOSE. TO FIT SNUGGLY IN THE HOLE OF PLEASURE….See exhibit P1 >>>>>>>>>> TO FUNCTION IN COMPLETE UNISON WITH “A WOMAN” Who Has One Of These…Observe Exhibit P2 {{}}!
These two Main Components are Essential for ALL LIFE to be able to Experience the Fullness of REAL SEX with a Partner Opposite of Them. In order to bring forth New Life on Earth if Desired to do so.
But in order for this to Happen or Occur REPRODUCTION is KEY! You can take GOD out of the Equation (I wouldn’t advise you doing that, but you can) AND THIS RULE STILL APPLIES…..
Without tying GOD or RELIGION to SEX, with regards to Straight people or to gays and Lesbians, this is Still a “FUNDAMENTAL LAW”….
THERE IS NO WILD ANIMAL NO WHERE ON EARTH THAT CAN REPRODUCE A NEW GENERATION OF ITS SPECIES WITH THE SAME SEX PARTNER, NO WHERE ON EARTH…AHHH TO INCLUDE HUMAN-BEINGS! It Just Doesn’t Happen, Nor Will It Ever Happen, EVER!
That Should Tell YOU right there or Anyone, With Even a Meager Amount of Intelligence, that—That Type of Sexual Activity IS AN OBOMINATION TO A DIVINE CREATION OF THE HUMAN BODY Let Alone Any Other Species on Earth, IF THAT TYPE OF SEX IS RIGHT THEN ALL I SAY IS REPRODUCE SOMETHING…lol REPRODUCE! Lmaooooo…..YOU CAN’T & YOU KNOW IT! and that’s Regardless of How much Love you have for one another! I don’t need to say Nothing else, nothing else…..lol But if You Need Further Proof?
Here’s a PRACTICAL EXAMPLE ….Let’s say that YOU are in a Building of any kind, anywhere, and there is A POWER SOURCE available….
IN ORDER FOR YOU TO TAP INTO THAT POWER SOURCE…You must First PLUG SOMETHING INTO THE WALL, THEN CONNECTION IS MADE! AND YOU GET THE JUICES FLOWING TO WHATEVER YOU PLUGGED INTO IT!
I want to see ANYONE Try Getting Your Computer or Flat Screen to work Properly using a “Male Fitting with a Male Fitting” or a “Female Fitting with a Female Fitting”.
Lmaooo I TELL YOU WHAT, LET ME SAVE YOU SOME FRUSTRATION & HEADACHE HERE…BECAUSE IF YOU TRY THAT UTTER STUPIDITY…lmao! I GUARANTEE YOU, THAT YOU WILL BE LEFT IN THE DARK FOR A VERY, VERY, VERY…Did I say very? YES, A VERY LONG TIME! WITH VIRTUALLY NO CHANCE AT ALL WHATSOEVER of getting Connected to the Power Source of which, if used Correctly will allow all of your Appliance or Electronics TO WORK PROPERLY and that’s the point!
Think of “Mother Earth” and “Father Time” EVERYTHING ON EARTH CAN REPLENISH ITSELF! Why do we call WOMEN MOTHER’S? Because they are the bearers of forth coming Life and Nurture IT! Why do we call MEN FATHER’S? Because the Bloodline flows through them to a Woman in Time and that process is Repeated and has Worked since Man and Woman have been in Existence! I mean why mess up a Good Thing!
It’s through TIME THAT WE ALL LEARN “RIGHT from WRONG” or how to live and Function PROPERLY on this planet etc. In Essence it TEACHES US as it moves along its merry way, Bc TIME WAITS FOR NO ONE! One Simply Can’t Exist Without the Other FACT!
AGAIN FOR FURTHER PROOF?, PUT ALL GAY MEN ON AN ISLAND AND ALL THE LESBIAN WOMEN ON ANOTHER ISLAND….YES I AM FAIR GIVE THEM ALL THE AMENDIES OF LIFE AS A HUMAN-BEING SO THEY CAN LIVE AND DO WHATEVER ELSE THEY DO….. THEN WAIT 3, 2, OR HELL 1 GENERATION AND SEE IF THEIR KIND CONTINUES TO THRIVE…lol Just wait, please that’s all I ask…lol…lol…lol.
MY STATEMENT HEREIN is to Ehmmm “EDUCATE” ALL ON THE BASIS OF SEX, AND HOW IT WAS DESIGNED TO WORK, & BE OF GREAT PLEASURE FOR “A MAN” & “A WOMAN” PERIOD NOT ANYTHING ELSE….As Stated Earlier I Don’t Judge ANY ONE….What You do is your Business. Just don’t come around me with it.
All I am saying is, that SEX IS INDEED A BEAUTIFUL THING, it was made to Heal the Mind, Body and Soul of a Man and a Woman. To Bring forth another Life should they choose to do so, or to just be 1 with Each Other in pure Bliss…..NOT WITH THE SAME SEX PARTNER.
GOD MAKES THING TO CONNECT AND FLOW TOGETHER PROPERLY IN UNISON AND IN HARMONY…AND SEX IS AT THE TOP OF THAT LIST FOR LIFE TO EXIST ON EARTH….. I find it to be Most Pleasurable and I thoroughly Enjoy It Whenever I Part Take In It “WITH A WOMAN” BUTT..lol to each his or her own….Whomever you are with, be good to that person and make sure that they feel Loved by you, every time, that you look to heal both yours and their body in this way…Just my thoughts Javinno Puricelli.