Hindsight: Burlesque Goes ’80s in Denver
Cora Vette, with crimson crimped hair and wispy blonde highlights, arrived on stage at the cozy Bar Standard in a shawl-meets-boa made of corn nut packets; the rest of her outfit was just as nutty: bright green Doc Martens, a form-fitting bustier and tutu-esque oversized skirt. The ode to the ’80s burlesque show she performed...
Hump Days: Vagina – Asset or Liability?
I recently read an article that asked the question “Why do so many pretty female comedians, pretend they’re ugly?” The article opened with this statement: Phyllis Diller was among the first to show us all that women could, indeed, be funny—but they’d have to give up their looks, smarts, and accomplishments first. The article...
Hindsight: Zombielesque @ Bar Standard
“Are you ready to see some stripping Zombies?!” Cora Vette, producer and host of Black Box Burlesque and owner/creative manager of VaVaVette, probed the audience. There was excitement in the air as everyone grew eager to see the zombie gals. “It’s gonna get fucking weird.” And boy, did it. Zombielesque is a Halloween-themed burlesque show...
Junk of the Heart: The Replacements
Lately, instead of morning sex, I have been mourning it. One of the perils of modern dating–and all of the electronic gadgets upon which it occurs–is that relationships develop and decay in inconsistent patches, like a teenager’s acne. I don’t know your middle name, your favorite TV show or if you have a sibling. I...
Hump Days: Sex Ed for Grown-Ups
Where did you get your sex education – from your friends, your parents, on the street, internet porn, rap lyrics? And where do you go when you want to learn new relationship skills? As Americans we live in what may be the most sexually obsessed and simultaneously, the most sexually repressed society in the free...
Hump Days: Does Size Matter?
As a sexuality and relationship coach, I get this question from men a lot. When I reply with ‘yes, it does’, men are either shattered or react like they just scored the winning touchdown at the Super Bowl. They are assuming that what I mean is that ‘bigger is better’. Why are so many men...
Hump Days: The Player – Play it again SAM
In today’s safe, neat, and tidy world there is something very exciting and reckless about falling in love. We live in a world filled with warning labels, seatbelt laws, and government regulations designed to keep us from getting hurt. There are few activities left that allow us to push ourselves to the edge or take...
Junk of the Heart: The Semantics of Sexting
As with most things I treasure in my late 20s, I can say this: It all started with AOL. There are hours logged late night with my less-than-blessed first boyfriend on AIM. It was all awkward “I move downs” and “touch you’s” because we were too chickenshit to use the really crunchy sex words for...
Hump Days: Alternatives to Monogamy – Polyamory
Even though polyamory may have become a household word since the recent premiere of Showtime’s reality series Polyamory: Married and Dating, my spell check continues to reject the word. So in case you’ve been living under a rock the past few years, perhaps I should define it. The term was created in the late 1980s...
Hump Days: Are You Bored With Monogamy? Part 1
Variety is the spice of life, but can sharing your partner with another really save your committed relationship? In my last Hump Days post about honesty, I stated the follow: Open relationships seem to be a growing trend these days due to the high incidence of divorce, and the fact that we live longer. Committing...
Hump Days: Can You Handle the Truth?
We often say we wish people would just be honest with us, but can we really handle the truth? Open relationships seem to be a growing trend these days due to the high incidence of divorce, and the fact that we live longer. Committing to one individual for the rest of one’s life, particularly when...
Hump Days: The Art of The Tease
It seems our society is obsessed with sex these days. Perhaps it’s that everywhere we turn sex is out there. It’s on television, in the movies, in the news, in advertising, in the magazines at the supermarket. Perhaps all of this and free access to internet porn has desensitized us. But I think we have...
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